Dating after divorce is something I now have a lot of experience with and want to share my advice with you if you'll listen.
I want to not only share my own tips, strategies and more, but also other advice when it comes to trying to move on after you have finalized the divorce.
This section will be a lot of fun. You may be reading this ready to move on or wanting to learn how to move on, but are scared, not confident and not sure how all this works nowadays.
Trust me, I was there and it was a scary place to be.
My friends who I went through their divorce with them reached this point as well, but all of them found out it isn't that bad out there once you put yourself out there and have a little fun.
Plus as the guy you will have to be the one to overcome fear (if you have that) and meet women. It can happen anywhere. It has for me and what upsets me the most is that I have learned that prior to being married, with a little more confidence I could've met more amazing women. But that is neither hear nor there at this point.
Dating is a game. It is a process of finding someone who is interested, taking them out, courting them a little, determining if you two are a potential match and going from there.
We're going to share a ton of tips and advice throughout this section. I did a lot of things right and a lot of things wrong as I began to date again as did others I knew going through this also.
In some areas it became easier then when I was dating prior to marriage (I got married at 22 and never cheated on my spouse so that may give you some reference as to age). In other areas it provided a ton of challenges all of which we'll cover.
It is not as scary as you may picture. It is actually a lot of fun. One thing that I was growing up was shy. I focused way too much on my flaws and not on the positive sides of myself which is what women tended to see. Therefore I had fears of rejection that were so overwhelming sometimes I wouldn't approach or get the courage to ask a woman out.
Upon my divorce I felt like the biggest piece of crap known to man. I thought if I couldn't even satisfy my wife how in the world could I ever satisfy another woman? My confidence was at an all time low.
Little did I know that a little confidence, understanding, listening skills (yes guys use this one), and the willingness to face rejection would I discover the world of dating is not as scary as I thought.
We're going to get real. In some parts if a woman reads this they will uncover some secrets that have been learned by men. I am excited to share this section because it has opened many doors for me and taught me things about myself that I didn't know were within.
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Dating after divorce is certainly something you'll want to engage in. It can be a lot of fun but can pose it's own set of challenges at times because you have now put yourself back out into the Lion's den facing situations, fears, and other aspects that you haven't perhaps seen in a while.
If you go into it with a positive attitude and do it the right way, you will be pleasantly surprised at the outcome. Stick around as we help you uncover how to do it the right way.
I will finish with this regarding dating after divorce...
First, you don't need to. I am nobody special and everything you need is within you now. You just have to be you, be genuine, and not be a complete douchebag.
I have a lot of friends who are women and I literally drilled them with questions, provided advice as a guy and learned a lot when it comes to how a woman thinks - with that said I will admit that the more I learn, the more I realize I don't know and have come to understand that men truly are from Mars and women truly are from Venus.
I have now been divorced for over 2 years as of the original writing. I am in my thirties and was extremely nervous when I was divorced to get back out there. You see I hadn't even considered dating since college as I was married the better part of a decade.
My confidence was shot. I had recently begun working out (a true therapy and one I recommend to all people) and began reading/learning on how to regain control of my life.
Over time I realized that I didn't need someone else to make me happy. I could do it myself. I also didn't need someone's feedback to realize that I was a good person who had a good heart ready to potentially give to someone else.
So, after a number of months I got back out there. I forced myself to begin opening up, speaking to women, saying hello, learning what makes a woman tick, understanding what they liked, listening (yes that darn listening again), and an entire new world began to open up.
I also learned some tricks of the trade when dating after divorce. Some worked, some did not. It became a fun game and one that I enjoyed - of course until emotions got involved, kids were involved, and the image of a potential future waned with that person. I did learn that honesty is the best way to go and that it is important to be open and communicate with anyone you are dating.
I have been very successful and have learned from other successful men when it came to dating after divorce. I'm not saying that I still don't have a lot to learn, but that is what life and relationships are all about - constant learning and improvement.
Plus, remember this is a place where you can share as well. I am not a teacher, but a lifelong student of human beings and always ready to learn from you as well. We may share ideas, tips, strategies, but they will all be tasteful - so much so that we are willing to share them with our own mothers.
Let's have some success with dating after divorce as we dive into the many areas of mastery that comes with learning how to move on after separating from our marriage.
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