Extramarital Affairs & Infidelity...
How to Deal with Cheating

Extramarital affairs in a relationship can really be the ultimate dagger, thereby ending everything that has come together and that a couple has worked towards.

I will leave my opinion out of this specific area (well maybe) because you may be reading this as the one having the affair or wondering if your spouse is having an affair.

Cheating Wife

This is an extremely emotional topic and we are not here to be judgmental, but to help provide tips and advice on cheating spouses. 

Leaving my opinion out of it, imagine someone you admire sitting down with you and you asking them for advice. I would hope this would be very trusted source, someone you really look up to and they look you in the eye as a man and tell you that this crap has to stop if it is you doing the cheating or your spouse.

This extramarital affairs and infidelity section provides divorce advice for men on how to potentially spot if your spouse is having an affair. It will also uncover some helpful tips and insights if you are the one either having the affair or thinking about having an affair.

Cheating Goes Both Ways & Can Begin Many Ways...

Listen men, we all think about other beautiful women - there is nothing wrong with thinking another woman is attractive.  It is deep rooted in a man's makeup to look at other women, think about conquests, go after that next challenge.

Perhaps someone in your office is providing you compliments that have been long gone at home? Maybe you went out with the guys and the bartender was flirting with you? Maybe you are just bored in your marriage and are tired of the "I have a headache" lines?

On the other hand, how would you feel if you were at home relaxing, working or hanging with the kids and your wife was out with another man? You'd want to destroy somebody wouldn't you?

Bottom line is it goes both ways. The reasons people cheat on each other and have extramarital affairs are many, but majority of the time it is due to issues at home between the husband and wife. These issues can easily be solved before the infidelity begins - you just need the strategies to begin healing the relationship.

Once that trust is broken and the lines crossed it is very challenging to get those back and move forward together successfully. I have seen it happen so it is possible, but the road is rocky and tremendously difficult for all involved.

The following will outline aspects on why someone would cheat on their spouse, how to spot it and figure out how to regain control and move onto the next steps whether that is to reconcile or to end the relationship.

Extramarital Affairs & Infidelity - What, Why, How...

  • Why did they do this? Why am I doing this? Why someone tends to have an affair.

  • Are you thinking of having an affair?

  • I'm having an affair and want out before I lose my marriage.

  • The types of affairs that one may have and it isn't always about sex.

  • Dealing with broken trust and betrayal.

  • Signs of a cheating spouse and what to do to prove it.

  • Coping with infidelity - don't sweep this under the rug so you make the best move.

  • How extramarital affairs can affect children.

  • Signs a wife is cheating.

  • Signs a husband is cheating.

  • Technology and the Internet and how affairs happen via these avenues.

  • The office affair.

  • The housewife affair.

  • Am I crazy and making assumptions?

  • Spying on your spouse.

  • Hiring a private investigator.

  • Stay or go - Divorce and infidelity advice.

  • And More...

We'll cover each topic in depth regarding affairs and cheating and what the next potential steps or options may be. This is not a situation to take lightly and has ruined more than just a many marriages.

It can become a downward spiral of hell, but armed with the proper knowledge will allow you to manage this situation and come out of it in a positive manner.

Personal Note...

Since being divorced I've had opportunities to go home with married women. What's funny is that is one of my rules of dating. No married women. I honor the commitment of that two people make.

I've even had to sell them on going home and being with their husbands and that if things are that bad, they need to have some serious conversations instead of sleeping with another. It's one thing to go out and have fun with friends, but another when infidelity plays out.

Since getting remarried, this is a topic that of course my wife and I have discussed quite a bit. Cheating is not something I'm made to do and honor the marriage no matter the situation.

To repeat, extramarital affairs and situations of cheating will bring about a lot of assumptions, guilt, pleasure, and other emotions. It is not an area to take lightly but it is important to handle the situation properly.

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